Journey, Feast, and Live

In our lives, we generally feel a need for connections. That need to build something that will make us look forward and not look back. We try to make sure we are doing the right thing. The thing is, what if that’s just in your head? What if that desire is inside of you, but you can’t get it out? You have hopes and dreams, but you aren’t getting anything done.

Do you struggle to do anything? How often are you fighting that internal struggle with just starting? How often are you trying to do the bare minimum just to make yourself feel worth it? I know that struggle and have that internal fight continuously. So much so I never get anything done that I want to get done. I think I’ve figured out part of the reason. The reasoning might sound ridiculous to some, but it also might make sense to others.

Who do you look up to? Do you have anyone in your life that makes you want to do your best? For some, this desire or need to do your best could be because of a family member. You want to be the knight and shining armor for the family. You want to make it appear you are the rock. It might be to show a mentee what it’s like to do certain things. It could be just for yourself.

Here’s the thing: what happens when you don’t have that fire to do anything? What happens when that fire is gone? Do you have the motivation to get to where you want to be? My own personal answer, I don’t have the motivation. I don’t have anyone that pushes me to do what I really want. That’s my problem, but the best way to get out of that hole is to find someone who will make you better.

Yes, I know, the words make it sound easy, but the execution is the key. I agree with you, words are words. The thing is, we can find someone or something that will motivate us. On the flip side, finding that motivation might not push us when things aren’t going the way we want, but it’s best to at least try. That’s why going out and finding that motivation is the key to the success you are looking for.

Finding Your Motivation

Going out and finding the right motivator is important. This is a case of going and doing the work to find your motivation, finding your mentor, then having them be that kick in the butt that you need. I would suggest making sure this person is the right fit for you. They need to have your best interest in mind. This is important because if this person doesn’t fit who you are, it’s not going to work in the long run. You’ll end up back where you started, with no one pushing you.

If you do find that person, you need to work with them on organizing a plan for your improvement. You need an action plan. Set your goals and your desires, and put together a timetable for yourself that works best with whatever it is you want to do.

What If I can’t Find Anyone

What if you can’t find a mentor? What if you are just in an area where finding a person isn’t possible? Do it for someone else. I know this might sound naive or make no sense, but you need to think about the greater good. You need to think about someone who might be looking up to you and be a model for them. In this example, it shouldn’t be a work colleague, but rather a loved one. In my case, I think about my little sister. I want to be an example for her as she gets older, I want her to see what her big brother is doing. Whenever I hit a rut, just like I’m in now, I think about the example I want to set for her.

In these situations, it can be difficult to do this for a spouse or a parent, but doing it for your child or someone younger than you should motivate you. As I get older, I realize I don’t have anyone that I was really able to lean on. The main reason was I was never shown how to lean onto anyone. Now, at my age, I wish I had someone who was really pushing me, checking in on me, and asking me questions. Sometimes, it’s good to have that kick because if you don’t have the personality to keep pushing, you won’t do anything.

You’ll just sit in neutral all the time, never thinking about doing better. Then, once you do try to do better, it can be too late and make no sense to try and do anything more to better your mind and body.

If you are ready to do something, let’s look at the action plans.

Finding Your Mentor

• If you can find a mentor, then get a mentor.
• Talk to them, tell them what you are looking for.
• Find out if they can be the one to get you where you want to be.

Can’t Find Your Mentor

No mentor around for whatever reason. These are your steps.

• Do it for someone else, a younger sibling, or a mentee, your children if you have them.
• Keep yourself accountable on behalf of someone else. It might seem odd and might not make any sense, but it’s better than not doing anything.
• Don’t think about failing, and just start doing

With all this, we can’t just sit around and think about the things we should’ve done. Our time is finite. We can’t waste any more time. The time is now. We can make ourselves the best we possibly can.

Let’s do the best things possible. You’ll be happy you started down this path, and you definitely won’t regret it.